Still Waiting?

Do you feel like you’ve been working on creating an awesome life for so long and wishing it would finally get here?

You’re definitely in good company with that feeling. I’ve heard many people wondering how long it takes for their efforts to be rewarded. Reading those positive thinking books, listening to uplifting tapes and watching movies that show you new ways to make it happen. So many hours spent and still waiting for the result…

Here are a couple of important points to consider:

Increase the volume

Imagine that it’s your assignment to take a bucket full of oil and replace it with a bucket full of water. The only rule is that you only have a small hole in the bucket that you can use. So instead of dumping it all out, you have to let the oil out a little at a time. A couple of things are kind of obvious. First, you need to have just as much water as you do oil in order to fill the bucket. Second, if you simply keep water flowing into the bucket, eventually the oil is going to completely disappear.

The oil in the bucket is the collection of your past thoughts, emotions and experiences. In this story, I’m talking about the collection of negativity that you’ve accumulated. The water represents positivity and focus on creating your awesome life. Just as you need to have enough water to completely fill the bucket and replace the oil, you need to have at least as much positivity as the sum total of the past negativity before your past the influence of the negativity.

So you simply need to keep at the positivity until it’s outnumbering the negativity you’ve collected. How much is that? That depends on how much and for how long you’ve been collecting negativity. When you stop and think about it, the amount of negativity gathered over a lifetime (or even half a lifetime) could be quite a lot. So, keep adding in the positivity so that you gather enough of it as fast as possible. And, when you’ve added enough, the negativity is going to disappear.

Pump up the volume, of positivity that is, and keep it flowing.

Shift into a new gear

You may feel like you’re spending so much time working to create a new life. If you’ve watched hours of uplifting movies and read a veritable library of books, you might just feel that way. The thing is that such passive activities are exactly that–passive. While that’s critical to creating change, it’s only the first part. The next important thing is to kick it into gear with active effort. Now, stop before you go racing out the door. The “right” kind of activity includes things such as visioning, language correction, and staying away from gossip and negative talk. While many might also label these as passive, they are active right where it counts, inside your mind. These activities are putting what you’ve learned into action.

Sharpen your focus

Sometimes, when we’re learning to stay focused on positivity, we forget that we also need to stop looking at the negativity. It’s kind of like using a wide-angle lens on the camera. So much of the picture shows up in the wide-angle lens, that you might still be looking at the negativity at the same time you are looking at the new positivity. This keeps your success limited. In order to make deep and lasting change, you need to sharpen your focus, or maybe narrow your focus, so that you’re only looking at the desired vision and cropping out the chaff.

Coach’s Challenge

Stop for a few moments after you’ve read this. Reflect on what’s in your field of vision that is the “old” that needs to go away. Find a way to stay focused on the “new” instead. Remind yourself, with notes or images taped up in your daily paths, to keep the focus!

Suggested Resource

Pick a few of your favorite books and keep them handy. Each day, maybe several times per day, open them to a random page and read 1-2 pages. This keeps you focused on what’s really important to you. Here are a few suggestions from my Amazon store:

Unlimited Power : The New Science Of Personal Achievement by Anthony Robbins

Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live by Martha Beck

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer