Get More Out of Your Relationships

“Lagniappe is a French Cajun word that means ‘beyond full measure’ or ‘to give a little extra.'”–Roger Crawford

In order to be happy, we need to remember to give more in value than we receive in return.

When you think about your friends and family, who do you appreciate the most? Most likely, the first one you thought of is someone from whom you feel you get more appreciation and love than perhaps you give. Since that’s the first person you thought of, you can imagine that your friends and family would say the same thing.

Giving more or giving a little extra is something that can often be accomplished with very little to no extra effort for you. Here are some examples:

  • remember your friend’s birthday with a special card or email
  • ask someone how they are (I mean really ask) and then listen carefully to what they say
  • give a small gift or token – just because
  • give them a big hug when you see them – just because
  • make sure that your time together is focused on them
  • be here now – put down the phone, no texting, no phone calls, no Facebook
  • appreciate something about them each time you see them

People usually choose to help and love those people from whom they also feel appreciation and love. How well are you doing in your friend and family appreciation department?

Coach’s Challenge:

1. Look at your current relationships and see if you can give more appreciation.

2. Where can you practice lagniappe–give a little extra?

3. Who do you know that is a go-giver? Send them a go-giver award at the go-giver award website.

Suggested Resources:

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Roger Crawford “Think Again” and

Bob Burg and John David Mann “The Go-Giver” and