Questions, Anyone?

Question MarkWhether you realize it or not, you are often asking questions. The questions might be aloud to someone else or inside your own mind.

The quality of your life is a direct result of the quality of your questions.

The type of questions you’re asking and the phrases you choose as you ask them contribute to how you create your life. The better your questions, the better your results.

Which questions do you think are most helpful? (answers at the end of this message)

  1. Why do I keep forgetting to write that note?
  2. How can I get more clients?
  3. What is holding me back?
  4. Why does it seem that I always sabotage my own success?
  5. What’s it going to take for me to eat healthier?
  6. How can I add more movement to my days?

The most valuable questions are the ones that turn on the creative, solution-generating mechanism present in your brain. Yes, everyone has it! And, that part of the brain is really effective at finding answers.

The least valuable questions are the ones that keep your creative, solution-generating mechanism focused on the problem. If you keep focusing on (i.e. speaking and thinking about) the problem, it looks for more examples of the problem. Then, you simply get more examples to understand the problem!

I’d rather see you asking questions that look for ways to get more of what you desire!

Recently, I had a situation that really needed a strong focus on finding a solution. Arriving at an event where I was to speak, the tech guy informed me that I had the wrong adapter for my iPad to the projector, despite my call to the venue ahead of time. I know people that would have flipped a lid, gotten angry and asked questions like “why did I get the wrong information”, “whose fault is this”, or other questions focused on the problem. At this point, I had 1 hour before my scheduled time. Thankfully, my first question was “how can we make this work”. The tech guy, Jesse, and I quickly realized that I’d need to purchase an adapter. Next issue – being that I was speaking in Kalamazoo, there were limited places (none of them near downtown) where I was guaranteed that they’d have the right adapter in stock. The hotel didn’t stock any Apple adapters. As a result of asking the empowering question, though, Jesse and I went to work. I purchased the item at Best Buy over the phone, called a friend that was on her way, and she picked it up. Jesse, meanwhile, took off to scour the hotel for a solution. At 15 minutes before my talk, he walked in with the right adapter. My friend walked in 5 minutes later with the one I needed.

What impressed me the most was how quickly we went to work on the solution and how quickly it was solved. Think of the time I’d have wasted getting angry and looking for someone to blame. Instead, we went right to work on the solution. A perfect example of setting the mind to work on the solution!

You see, that part of your brain is always answering your questions. Which questions do you want it to answer – ones that keep you in the problem or ones that can take you through the problem to your desired outcome?

Coach’s Challenge

Write 3 questions that you can begin to use to get more of what you desire.

  1. Write down 3 things you would like to have more of in your life, i.e. be thinner, receive $x next month, exercise 3 times per week.
  2. Write 3 questions that are going to direct the creative, solution-generating mechanism to find ways for to get that. Questions formatted like examples 2, 5 and 6 above are a great start.
  3. Email me, or comment below, your questions for feedback on their effectiveness.
  4. Plaster notes listing your 3 questions all around your house, office, car, notebooks, etc. – everywhere you can see them.
  5. Train yourself to use these 3 questions, and only questions phrased like this, for every situation in your life.

ANSWERS: Questions 1, 3 and 4 are focused on the problem. Questions 2, 5 and 6 are going to direct that inner mechanism to your desired outcome.