Do you ever feel derailed? Do you have days when it feels as though everything is hard? Are there days when you doubt that you can achieve your dreams?
I know that I have those days, and I notice that others have them, too. Here are some strategies that help me and ones shared by others.
First, remember that no matter how bad it feels, the feeling is going to change — eventually. It might take a few minutes, a few hours or even a few weeks. Know that it does change. It might feel really intense for a while, and, yet, it always lightens up again.
When we’re feeling bad is the time when it’s most important to re-focus our thoughts. Psychology research shows that thoughts always come first and feelings are a result of thoughts. When we’re feeling bad, it’s because thoughts led us there. That’s the bad news. The good news is that if thoughts led us to the bad feeling, then different thoughts are going to bring us a good feeling. What kind of thoughts help us to feel good? I have several thoughts that I make into a mantra to help me.
- The word love — I spell it out over and over in my head — L-O-V-E — sometimes silently and sometimes I speak it out loud
- The word peace — I use the same as for love — P-E-A-C-E
- The word relax — R-E-L-A-X — used as a mantra it helps me to relax my mind and also my body which is often tense when I’m having a day that needs to shift from tough to great
As I repeat these words, spelling them letter by letter, I feel my body relax. It sometimes takes whatever time it takes in order to feel the relaxation. Again, remember that you can begin to change how you feel. Studies have shown that no matter how hard we concentrate, every feeling either shifts or goes away in a pretty short time.
Another strategy that helps me is to pick a book that is uplifting and read a few pages or a chapter — how much I read depends on how badly I need it! What is uplifting to you? What are some of your favorite “feel-good” books? Some of my favorites include: MasterMinding 101 by Mary Robinson Reynolds, The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity by Catherine Ponder, Think Again by Roger Crawford, Healing with the Angels by Doreen Virtue, or The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran. I have many others that have helped me, these are simply the first ones that jumped into my awareness as I was writing. Most importantly, pick something that you love or something that’s helped you in the past — something that resonates strongly for you.
Here are a few paragraphs from MasterMinding 101 by Mary Robinson Reynolds that are so important in staying on track.
“This is often what happens to our dreams and desires: we give them very little fuel, attention or feeling, and therefore nourishment, because we don’t believe it is possible to have what we want. The amplitude of thought or quantum wave created is a broad or long wave, with little amplitude and very little energy. The irony is that we are getting exactly what we currently believe and feel is possible, because the here and now launches out into the there and then and comes back again as the very thing to which we were limiting ourselves in the first place!”
Another paragraph from the same book:
“And remember this, when you are worrying, fussing, nagging, or in the fear of worst case scenarios, you are visualizing. You are utilizing your seeing power for the thing that you fear. You MUST stop doing this to get different results. So, catch yourself, and change the visual as quickly as you can.”
And, here’s a quote to round us out.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us” – Helen Keller
What strategies do you use to stay on track?
Here is a list (and links to them in my Amazon store or affiliate links) of the books I mentioned above: