It is with gratitude that I look at the relationships and connections that I am blessed to be a part of.
My business is growing. My clients are changing and evolving. Wonderful people continually become part of my network. My friendships deepen. My relationships become stronger. I have friends and family that support me. My connection to the Divine grows stronger.
I know that, in part, these aspects of my life are possible because I choose to and take time to focus on what is working. Because I focus on that, my brain and subconscious bring me more of that.
The RAS (reticular activating system) in my brain takes its direction from my habitual thoughts and actions. What I spend the most time thinking about and acting on continually sends commands to the RAS. It finds ways to make sure that I get more of what I’m thinking about.
In many ways, the RAS functions like a computer. GIGO is an acronym that applies to the RAS as much as to a computer. “Garbage In – Garbage Out” (GIGO) is an unfortunate consequence of garbage thoughts. Garbage thoughts include thoughts like the following:
* “I’m not good enough.”
* “People are always ripping me off.”
* “Watch out for lawyers (salespeople, insert any other profession) – they’re only out to rip you off or take advantage of you.”
* “That’s too expensive.”
* “I can’t afford that.”
* “I’m always late.”
* “He’s always talking down at me.”
* “Why are all the nice girls taken?”
* “My wife just keeps gaining weight.”
* “My husband always works late and doesn’t seem to care about the kids.”
You get the idea, right?
Everything you say and think gets registered by the RAS. It takes everything at face value. It makes a poor audience for a comedian because it has no idea how to take a joke!
As you say grace at the Thanksgiving table or even simply focus on what you’re thankful for, remember that what you focus on during that time is an opportunity to set the RAS on a mission of creating more of those things in your life.
Be thankful, today. Then, make it a daily – or even an hourly – routine to focus on what’s working in your life.
Remember to say “thank you” out loud to those people that matter to you. Also, say it to those people with whom you want to improve your relationship. There is always something you can say “thank you” for. Even if it is “thank you” for the lessons they taught you.
What’s working in your life? Please share your comments, below.