Here’s another strategy to help you create Your Awesome Life.
Be definition, when you’d like to create something different than what you already have, you must do different things, act differently, be different, or see yourself as different.
Psychology has a few tricks up its sleeve that can help us with the “act differently” approach. One of them is a Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) principle called “opposite action”. By acting differently we can actually become different.
You may have heard “act as if it were true” which I learned in therapy long ago. Basically, the idea is that when I’m ready to be living a new behavior, I need to act as though it were already true. By acting as if it were already true, I begin to get comfortable with the new behaviors. Eventually, they are no longer new and are then easier to do. That’s one of the origins of “fake it ’til you make it”. Fake the behavior (it feels like faking it because it’s new and uncomfortable) until you’ve practiced enough that it can become your standard modus operandi (you’ve done it often enough that it’s comfortable and old hat).
In her article Psychology Research to Change Your Life: “Act as If”, Laura Schenk writes about ways to act as if in situations from dieting to procrastinating.
I’ve heard people be concerned that faking it ’til you make it is inauthentic or downright deceptive. If you use the technique as a way to deceive someone or do something lacking integrity, then, yes, I’d suggest avoiding it. However, when you use it as a way to bring about positive change in your own life that leads you to being happier and more fulfilled, I suggest you give it a go.
The important thing is this: to be ready at any moment to sacrifice what you are for what you could become.
– Charles Dickens
Have you thought about something that you’d like to “fake”? Now’s a great time to start!