This is one of my favorite sayings. “When you do what you’ve always done, you get what you’ve always gotten. When you want something different, do something different.”
On the surface, it sounds easy to just do some tasks or activities in a different way than you have done them before. What is really at the core of this statement, though, is that in order to do these things differently, you need to change something about yourself.
Ways that you need to change include:
Your beliefs are usually very deep and well seated in your psyche. Beliefs are created by the experiences and dialogs from throughout your life. The more often you have experienced something, the more solid your belief. You have a choice about what you believe. Do your beliefs help you move forward? In order to change them, you need to take a good look at your life and ask one of my favorite questions. “What must I be believing in order for my life to look like it does?”
Your thoughts usually stem from beliefs. Listening to your thoughts is one way to begin to determine what you believe. Thoughts run continuously through your mind. Whether you hear them (or are aware of them) is a different question. They are there! Your thoughts determine what you speak and what you do. When you become aware of your thoughts, you can begin to change them. You can actually begin to change your beliefs by continuously monitoring and changing your thoughts.
Are you aware of what your real priorities are? Many of you are saying yes. And, yet, I know that for many of you, the truth is actually a “no” answer. The reason I say that is because your actions demonstrate your true priorities. Many times, the items on the “to do” list stay on the list – incomplete – for a long time. What that says, is that the item is really low on your true priority list. You might even have assigned it a high priority on the list, and yet, it stays incomplete. Look at what you spend your time on and what activities you accomplish. That shows you what your real priorities are.
Are you living the life that you desire? Most likely, there are some areas of your life that are wonderful and happy. There might be some areas that you would like to improve. Take a look at what you would like to have in that part of your life. Then, take a good inventory of your beliefs, thoughts and priorities and see what you could change in order to get a different result.
First, decide what area of your life you would like to improve. Then, take some time to answer the question “What must I be believing in order for my life to look like it does?”. Look at the activities you spend the most time on. See if that matches up with the priority you have assigned on your “to do” list. The last piece may require some dedication on your part: begin to listen to the mind chatter that is your constant “awake time” companion. Write down some of the thoughts that you hear being repeated over and over. Are those thoughts helping you to move forward or do they contribute to staying stuck? Use your discipline to stop those thoughts and pick something else to think about that is going to help you get what you desire.
This book in my Amazon store, Beyond Positive Thinking, by Robert Anthony, can help you transcend old beliefs and limitations and transform positive thinking into positive action. It is one of my favorites.