You may have heard some of these before:
We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. – Abraham Lincoln
The glass is half-full (or half-empty).
Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. – Winston Churchill
Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it. – Irving Berlin
Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears. – Marcus Aurelius
Here’s a lovely paragraph that explains so well how important attitude can be:
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
– Charles R. Swindoll
I wrote some time back about how our attitude impacts others. From my experiences and training as a massage therapist, it is very clear how much our attitude affects our physical appearance, too. Our attitude impacts and colors each of the following (and likely even more):
- facial expression
- voice intonation
- choice of words
- eye expression
- frequency of your energy field
- body temperature
- hand shake
- gait (how you walk)
- clothes you choose to wear
- attention to detail in appearance
- excitement (or lack thereof) in your voice
And, like the previous article I referenced above mentions, people can sense intuitively and instantly what all of those above factors are saying (or screaming) about you.
To be our most successful and powerful selves, we need to choose the most appropriate and useful attitude right from the beginning!
This week, I challenge you to take inventory of your attitude before you go into each meeting or phone call. That goes for whether it’s at work or with your friends, your spouse/partner, your therapist, your coach or your kids. Check up on yourself and notice what your attitude is before each one. Is there an opportunity to uplevel it?